Dear Fear, you and I have been together for a very long time. I don’t know how to say this right, so I’ll just say it. We’re done, it’s over, we have no future together. I want you to know that it’s not you, it’s me - I’ve changed. I’m sure you can find someone else to terrorize, but I’m done. From now on, whenever we meet, I’ll look you straight in the eyes and tell you that what I’m doing is too important for you to mess up.
These past few weeks I’ve been talking to a lot of strangers. I moved to a new place and I’m trying to get to know my new neighbors. They all live far away, and I wish I had a bike. I mentioned this to one of the neighbors, and she said “oh, you know, I have two bikes out there that I never use. Just pick one, and it’s yours.” A few days later I mentioned to another new neighbor that I wish I had a child seat for my new bike, and she said “oh, you know, I have one that I never use. It’s yours if you want it.” To celebrate my new bike with child seat, me and the child rode to the nearest restaurant, 7 km away, where I accidentally locked the bike. Yes, it was by accident. And it was late in the afternoon and I didn’t fancy walking 7 km with a tired three year old. I asked the restaurant staff for help, and they found tools to saw off the lock. Problem solved!
I have never talked to strangers like this before. It’s terrifying every time, yet almost always positive.
I love my new life.
How have you defied fear lately?